Tuesday, May 25, 2010


Sorry for the lack of posting lately. I have pictures and updates for 2 and 3 weeks, I should probably work on that before he turns one right? Basically I've had a baby on the boob non stop which makes getting anything done quite the challenge. I haven't mastered the one handed typing yet.

Speaking of breastfeeding and challenges, we have had quite the little journey so far. Before having a baby I always knew I'd breastfeed. It has so many benefits, is free, way more convenient than having to deal with formula. I thought baby plus boob, sounds easy enough right? Har har.

(If you don't want tmi about nursing and broken nipples... probably skip this one).

When the midwife was checking his sucking reflex after Marshall was born she mentioned that he had a very "vigorous" sucking pattern. I didn't really pay any attention. The first 2 days we didn't really have any issues. Marshall was a sleepy bear, but as long as he wasn't too warm and I/we rubbed his head or feet he'd nurse no problem. At our 2 day apt, I mentioned that I was having some discomfort and Tiffany checked his latch and said it looked fine but mentioned that he was very "active at the breast." By day 3 things started getting pretty painful. We checked his latch then summed it up to me just needing to get used to it. By day 4 my nipples were severely cracked and bleeding. Bleeding to the point where blood would pour out of Marshall's mouth when he unlatched. NOT FUN. Then a scab would form that he had to pull the milk through each time.

I was in hell.

The pain combined with the hormones was not a good time. It would be time to feed the baby and I was scared to death of him because I knew how painful it was going to be. Then he'd nurse and I'd cry because he looked so happy and what kind of woman dreads feeding her own child right? I read books, breastfeeding boards, and tried everything I could. Ice, hot compresses, hand expressing, lanolin, NOTHING HELPED.

This little kid of ours is quite the voracious eater. Within 2 hours after he was born he was sucking his hands so loud you could hear it from the other room. Most babies take about 2 weeks to regain their birth weight... he took less than one. I am so happy that we have such a healthy baby who wants to nurse, but holy hell.

For about 2 days I cried almost every time he ate. Which was every 2 hours. I told Jerad that it hurt a million times worth than the birth and I was serious. He tried to be supportive but he had a hard time seeing me so unhappy and in so much pain. He'd rub my back and tell me he was proud of me and I was doing a good job... and I'd sob and drop tears on the baby. I've never had a panic attack, but I came pretty close almost every time it was time to feed him.

One side got so bad that it was completely unbearable to nurse anymore. On day 6 I started pumping on that side which still hurt like hell but was at least bearable. I was worried about offering the baby a bottle so early since most people recommend waiting until at least 4 weeks so that a good breastfeeding relationship can be established first. But nursing on only one side was killing me too so we decided to give him the pumped milk in a bottle. It was heaven. Jerad would take one or 2 night feedings and I could sleep. Or we'd give him pumped milk before nursing which made him less "enthusiastic."

I talked to the midwife about it at our one week appointment and she took a look at what I'd started calling the "broken nipple." The cracks were so deep she was worried it would turn into mastitis and told us what to look out for. Great. She recommended continuing with the pumping and also trying a nipple shield.

Over the next week, to be honest, things still sucked. Breastfeeding was not something I was enjoying, it was something that I got through by looking at the clock and counting down the minutes until he would be finished. I felt so guilty. I continued pumping, which is not a walk in the park either. During the night I'd get up every 2-3 hours and go sit in the living room and pump for 30 minutes. I also started using the nipple shield which made things a lot less painful. I promised myself that I'd stick with it for at least a month and re-evaluate things then. I was determined to make it work, but I knew if it stayed as bad as it was that it would just end up hurting my relationship with the baby.

By week 3 things had gotten so much better. I was healing and even though I still wouldn't call nursing an "enjoyable bonding experience," I wasn't dreading it or crying anymore. Which is a good thing because he's going through a growth spurt and wants to eat just about every hour and for 45 minutes.

At least we haven't had any issues with the baby switching from bottle to boob to nipple shield. Basically, as long as he can have something in his mouth he's happy. He's fine with any position which makes things easier too. We'd mastered the side lying thing on the first night! And I haven't had any issues with not making enough milk which is another blessing.

Before I had the baby I knew that some people experienced pain or cracked and bleeding nipps, problems with the baby latching, supply issues etc. But I had no idea how painful it could actually be. I can completely understand why people give up or decide to use formula from the beginning. Especially if they are also having problems getting the baby to latch on! That said, I'm so glad I stuck with it, and if things have gotten this much better in 3 weeks, I can't wait to see where we'll be a month from now. Even though it hasn't been a walk in the park, it's worth it.

Tomorrow we have an apt with our midwife/pediatrician. I can't wait to see how much weight our little piggy has gained!

Saturday, May 15, 2010

The Birth Story

May 2nd, our "due date" arrived. All throughout the pregnancy I told myself that I would carry the baby 1-3 weeks past the due date. I knew that most first babies were born late and I didn't want to feel impatient. If he needed to bake a little longer, so be it!

(May 2nd, 40 weeks)

The 2nd was a Sunday and the weather was beautiful. Jerad and I went out to brunch, then took the dogs on a long walk. I was feeling kind of "off" and just very pregnant. I was having contractions, but I'd been having prodromal labor for weeks with contrax sometimes as close as 5 minutes apart so I didn't really think anything of it.

Throughout the day we finished a few things around the house, answered a million calls asking if we'd had the baby yet, and joked how strange it would be if this was our last weekend alone. Little did we know! Later we gave the dogs baths, the last undone "to-do list" item.

As the day wore on, the contractions got stronger, but were very irregular and definitely bearable so I still didn't think that it was the real thing. Around 9:30pm I was sick of dealing with the contractions and wanted to go to bed. Jerad wanted me to call the midwife and give her a heads up, just in case. For some reason I HATED that idea. I didn't want to be the first time mom that kept crying wolf, especially since I still didn't think this was it. Jerad pointed out that Tiffany (midwife) would probably rather have a false alarm and be prepared and able to get some extra sleep than have us not call her. Whatever. So, I called her and basically said "Jerad is making me call, I may or may not be in labor." She thought that was funny and told me to have a beer or glass of wine, try to get as much sleep as possible, and call her if my water broke or there were any major changes and she would check back in the morning.

We got in bed and I listened to a few hypnobabies tracks on my ipod while I tried to go to sleep. Around 11:30 ish I woke up because the contractions were getting more intense and a bath sounded nice. I decided not to wake up Jerad (besides, it wasn't like I was in labor...) and just tried to relax. I listened to my ipod and managed to doze off in the tub. By 2:30 I decided I needed Jerad so I woke him up. He sat with me in the bathroom for awhile until I felt ready to try to sleep again, around 4:15am. I kept saying I just wished my water would break, or I'd start loosing my mucous plug or SOMETHING to tell me that yes, I was probably in labor.

At 4:30 I was just drifting off to sleep when I felt something POP inside of me. Almost like a rubber-band. Jerad was passed out kind of spooning me with his hand on my belly and I asked him if he had heard or felt anything. He obviously hadn't, so I got back up and went to the bathroom to pee. It seemed like there was some extra fluid going on so I told Jerad that I thought my water "might have broken."

Looking back over this whole experience, I was in such denial...

There was another gush of fluid as I went to stand up, this time with some vernix in it. I called Tiffany to let her know, and she told me that I should refrain from having sex (no duh), and to try to get some sleep since I had basically been up all night. Since I had tested negative for Group B Strep, we didn't need to worry about any antibiotics.

Within 30 minutes I was having regular contractions, every 2-3 minutes apart and lasting for 40 seconds up to a minute. They were more intense than they had been, but still bearable. I was feeling them mostly in my back. Finally we gave up on trying to sleep. We went through our birth supplies one more time to make sure we had everything, and put the liner in the birth tub.

At 6am Jerad called Amy, our Doula, and told her what was going on. She came over at 6:30. I was still able to talk through contractions, but they were uncomfortable and I was having a lot of back pain. She suggested different positions, hands and knees, leaning over the birth ball, sitting on the birth ball, lunges, leg up on the coffee table.... none of which helped with the discomfort in my back. Oh well, a long time ago I had resigned myself to the fact that this baby was going to stay posterior and I would be facing back labor, so be it!

Throughout the morning my contractions began to get less intense (or I just got better at managing them), and started to space out. Around 8am Amy and I went on a walk while Jerad made a Jamba Juice run and went to the grocery store to pick up a few last minute things we needed to back the carrot birthday cake for the baby. At about 9 we sent Amy home because I felt like I was handing things fine and it was going to be awhile. Tiffany checked in and said that things would probably start picking up after dark. She said if I felt like I could, to nap because I was running on no sleep and was going to need my energy.

After Amy went home the contractions started picking up again. It became apparent that having ppl around (besides Jerad) just kind of slowed things down. Jerad and I spent a few hours watching tv and trying to rest. Amy and Tiffany continued to call for updates. Around noon Tiffany asked if I was feeling like I'd like to get things progressing a bit more, or if I felt like I wanted to try to rest and save my energy. I told her I didn't feel like I could rest, so we should get this show on the road. She suggested a homeopathic and taking black and blue cohosh every hour for 4 hours, then if that didn't bring it on we could talk castor oil. If labor hadn't picked up by that night and we had to go the castor oil route, she recommended waiting until the next morning so that I didn't spend the whole night in the bathroom.

I was really excited that she wasn't too concerned with hurrying things along even though my water had broken. Being "on the clock" was one of my biggest fears and I knew the norm was once your water broke hospitals like the baby to be born within 24 hours. Even if he took another day, I knew the baby would come when he was ready.

Neither one of our 2 tiny health food stores had the blue cohosh or the homeopathic med, but Jerad brought home the black cohosh and I took the first dose diluted in water at 1pm. It tasted like ass.

That might even be an understatement.

Tiffany made plans to bring the other 2 over at 7:30pm.

By 3pm contractions were picking up again and were between 8 and 15 minutes apart. They were strong enough that I needed to pause whatever I was doing and concentrate. Jerad and I started working on the cake. Well, he basically did everything and I took about 45 minutes to grate the carrots. Amy stopped by again and while she was over the contractions stopped again.

After she left, they started picking back up until my mom stopped by at 4 with some miso soup and they again tapered off. At this point I still thought it would be at least a day until the baby was born. For the most part I could still talk and walk during the contractions. It felt SO MUCH BETTER to vocalize and move my hips during the contractions, but it was hard for me to do that with my mom there. For some reason whenever anyone was there I felt like I wanted to make THEM comfortable, and just couldn't get in the zone. When it was just Jerad and me, I could focus. He would also vocalize with me which made me laugh, reminded me to keep the tones low, and really really helped.

About 2 hours after my mom arrived, the contractions got really intense and were relentless. Jerad and I were putting the finishing touches on the cake when I started feeling shaky and like I was going to throw up. I threw up in the kitchen sink then ran to the bathtub before I had another contraction. I was barely getting any breaks in between. There was no relief and I could find no comfort in any position. Everything I had planned on doing to be more comfortable, just didn't help. Counter pressure on my back, the birth ball, sitting on the toilet. NOTHING. Laying in the tub on my side was the only thing that remotely helped. I felt really hot and having cold wash cloths on my forehead really helped.

I should mention that since about 4:30 my mom was wigging out that we weren't calling the midwife to come over. I think she was convinced that the baby was going to just fall out. By 6:30 pm the contractions were 3-5 minutes apart, lasting about a minute. I started throwing up and shaking and having bloody show when I peed. In my head I briefly though "hmmm, this could be transition?" but then I also thought that it could just be early labor and I should stop getting my hopes up and being a wuss. I remember looking at the clock and trying to figure out how many contractions I'd have to make it through before the midwife got there to "get labor going." I was SO WORRIED that I really was only in early labor. I was tired and everything was so intense, if I had to keep going for another 12 hours I knew I couldn't make it. I also just wanted to be alone and free to be miserable so I shut everyone out of the bathroom.

Jerad called the midwife and she was already on her way. He didn't really tell her that things were intense because I was still in denial and wasn't really acting like I'd be having the baby soon. Ever since 2:30 am he had been wanting to fill up the birth tub and I'd been putting him off. Since we were having the baby at home, I knew there would be no option for pain meds... the tub was as good as it could get for me and I wanted to save it till the last possible second. Finally at about 7pm I told him he could fill it up, and to call Amy because I needed her.

Amy got here about 5 minutes later and it was such a relief. I had started feeling a little panicky and like I couldn't stay on top of the contractions any more and she was sooo calming. Reminding me how to breathe, to keep my voice low, getting me cool cloths...

At 7:15 Tiffany got there and could tell by the sounds that I was making that I was much much farther along than she'd been expecting to find me. She started rushing to bring in her supplies and called her assistant to head on over. I asked if I could get in the birth tub now (she had said before that she wanted me to wait until I was in active labor) and she laughed at me and said of course I could.

Because I'm a freak, in between contractions (which were now only a minute apart), I asked Jerad if he could clean the bathroom so people could use it. Because the thought of people trying to pee with bathwater in the tub and the towels all messed up was more than I could bear. OCD much? Then I told the midwife and Amy that they should go get chairs so they'd be more comfortable instead of kneeling on the floor.

Tiffany asked if I'd like to be checked (this would be my first and only cervical check for the entire pregnancy). I said I would, mostly because I still couldn't believe that this was it, and not only was I fully dilated, the baby had also descended well into the birth canal.

Jerad threw on some board shorts and got in the tub with me. All of a sudden the contractions changed and my body was pushing HARD. I don't know how some people "breathe the baby down," there was no way I couldn't push.

Jerad was amazing. Everything was so intense and he stayed so calm and just whispered calm, loving, words of encouragement to me. He kept reminding me that we'd be meeting our baby soon, and he was so proud of me and telling me what a great job I was doing.

Between the pushing contractions I would just bliss out. I felt like they were 5 minutes apart and was frustrated because I just wanted it over with. I told the midwife and assistant that I needed more contractions, they said that was the first time anyone had ever asked for that. Apparently they were only a minute apart, but it felt so much longer. I was able to drift off between them... probably because I was running on no sleep:)

Pushing was the most challenging part of the whole experience. I felt totally unprepared for how forceful my body would push all on its own and how vocal I would be. It just felt so much better to yell out during the pushing. Amy kept reminding me to keep my voice looooow.

Jackie, the midwife's assistant arrived a few minutes into the pushing. Everything after I started pushing is kind of a blur. I remember Amy using hypnobabies cues and putting cold cloths on my forehead and chest. I know my mom kept bringing me water because I was DYING of thirst. Tiffany was doing things like checking the baby's heartbeat and my blood pressure and I remember apologizing for accidentally dipping the blood pressure cuff in the water.

I started pushing about 7:45, and the baby started crowning a little after 8. I wouldn't say I felt The Ring Of Fire everyone talks about, but I definitely felt the stretching. Tiffany asked if I wanted to touch the head and I did not. I also didn't want to see him coming out in the mirror. I just wanted to close my eyes and have the baby! Jerad watched him in the mirror. He came out slowly, and it felt like forever, but he was born at 8:25, so really I was only in hard labor for about 2.5 hours.

Tiffany immediately put him on my chest and it was just surreal. Everything that I'd gone through the last 40 weeks, the labor, I still hadn't been able to imagine the BABY that was coming. All of a sudden there he was! So small yet so huge.

We sat there in the water, holding him covered in a towel until his cord stopped pulsing.

The actual birth was so peaceful, it was everything that I wanted. Jerad and I in the tub. The lights in the room were all turned off, so we just had the dim light coming in from the laundry room and hall way. It was such a smooth transition going from the womb to the warm water. Once he was born he was placed right on my chest and we just snuggled him and looked at him until his cord was ready to be cut.

After about 10 minutes, the cord stopped pulsing and my mom cut it. Then the baby was wrapped in a blanket and my mom held him while everyone helped me onto the bed. Jerad changed quickly and held the baby (and hasn't really stopped holding him since).

We sat on the bed holding the baby and trying to nurse until the placenta was ready to come out (I think around 10 minutes?)

He wasn't too interested in breastfeeding at first, he just wanted to sleep.

Tiffany likes to wait awhile to do the newborn exam so that the parents can bond and the baby has a nice smooth transition into the world, but we asked her if she'd weigh him so that we could let ppl know since that what everyone always wants to hear:)

Everyone guessed the weight first. I thought he was in the high 6lb range, but guessed 7.3 since everyone else was guessing in the 7's.

(weighing the baby)

(surprised at the weight)

Much to everyone's surprise, he was 8lbs and 3 ounces!

At this point, he still didn't have a name. I asked Jerad if we could name him Marshall Ford and he thought it seemed right.

After the placenta came and making sure I wasn't bleeding too much, Jerad went to see the group of people that had congregated in our living room:

I had no idea so many people were there! Everyone was soooo quiet!

(serving the homemade birthday cake)

I had a small tear that needed a few stitches. Tiffany used topical and then inject-able lydocaine so it wasn't bad at all. I just got to hold and stare at our beautiful baby Marshall.

After that it was time for the newborn exam:

(14 inch head)
(19.5 inches long)

The exam was so gentle and thorough. He slept through most of it:

By 10:30, only 2 hours after the birth, everyone was gone. Jerad and I took a shower together and the three of us went to sleep in our own bed. No strange sounds, smells, nurses checking vitals, just our little family in our little house. It was amazing.

I'm so glad we were able to have a homebirth, I can't imagine having done it any other way.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

One week already?

Wow. When Jerad and I were planning our leave for after the baby came, 4 weeks for him then 8 weeks for me seemed like SO LONG. I can't believe one week is already done. It kind of heartbreaking thinking about leaving this little guy so soon. I'm glad we both decided to ease back into work part time instead of jumping right back to full time.

Not much has happened in the last week. We've been doing lots of snuggling and just staring at Marshall and eachother and saying over and over how cute he is. It's unbelievable that he's OUR baby!

Until I have time to write a more lengthy post, here are some pics to hold you over:

Day 1:

Day 3:
(this goes on a lot)

Day 4:
(he is SO expressive! here are a few of his little faces)

Day 5:
(Jerad's grandparents stopped by. 80 years of Hutchinsons!)

Day 6:
(My first Mother's Day)

So far he has been such a sweet, easy, happy little baby. He makes the most adorable little faces and sounds, we can't get over it. Yesterday we had our first outing, a trip to Target to pick up a few things. It was the first ride in the car and the first time "out" and I was a little nervous that it would turn into a disaster. He ended up sleeping almost the whole time and was super content for the little bit he was awake.

Today we went to a Mother's Day brunch and again, he was a little angel sleeping or just quietly looking around. The only time he fussed was when he was ready to nurse. We're trying not to get our hopes up too much just in case his little personality changes, but so far he is super chill.

At night he sleeps for 2-3 hours at a time then will fuss quietly, nurse, get his diaper changed, and fall right back to sleep. As of now there haven't been any nights where he wants to be awake.

Jerad has been SO amazing, I honestly don't know how he could be any more involved/helpful than he has been. Prior to having Marshall, he had never changed a diaper and hadn't really even held a baby. So, I was figuring there would be a bit of a transition period until he felt "comfortable." Nope, he just jumped right in!

Since we had the baby at home, there were no nurses or anyone to help us. 2 hours after the birth everyone was gone. Jerad changed every diaper the first 2 days until I was feeling recovered. He also woke up the next morning, washed all the laundry, and put the house back together then made us a huge french toast breakfast.

I am so blessed with such a sweet family:)

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

He's Here!

Born at home
May 3rd, 8:25pm
8lbs, 3 oz
19.5 Inches