- There are 1,898,923 people in the U.S. with the last name Brown.
- Statistically the 4th most popular last name.
- There are 3,798 people in the U.S. named Stephanie Brown (I've known 2).
So, I changed my name to one of those "no one can say/pronounce/spell" surnames.
- There are fewer than 336 people in the U.S. with the last name Kambestad.
- There are 1 or fewer people in the U.S. named Stephanie Kambestad.
"K as in Kambestad
A as in Ambestad
M as in Mbestad
B as in Bestad
E as in Estad
S as in Stad
T as in Tad
A as in Ad
and D as in Dude."
This cracked Jerad and Danielle up a lot.
It took me about 2 days after my divorce was final to run to the Social Security office and change it back.
Jerad and I have talked a lot about name changing. I decided a few years ago that were I to ever get married again, I would be keeping my name as is. I will have been a "Brown" for 25 years this year. I barely even remember being a "Kambestad" because during that time allll of my friends still called me by my maiden name. My parents even asked for "Steph Brown" when they called me at work. I just didn't keep the new name long enough for it to stick. I like my maiden name, and I want to hold onto it. It has a history behind it, both my own, and my family's (there is a town in Texas founded by my gradpa's grandpa with our family pictures on the museum walls).
Jerad on the other hand, very traditional about the whole affair.
I think its dumb to do anything only on account of "tradition." I also think that its dumb to have to give up your identity just because you are getting married. The writer of this blog had a friend give this reading in her wedding ceremony:
We reach for destinies beyond
what we have come to know
and in the romantic hush
the other's life
as known mystery.
Shared. But inviolate.
No melting. No squeezing
We swing our eyes around
as well as side to side
to see the world.
To choose, renounce,
this, or that --
call it a council between equals
call it love.
She went on to say:
"I love this poem for the way it departs from one convention of weddings. There is a moment in most ceremonies that leaves me a little mournful: the one when it's pronounced that two amazing individuals, each of whom I love separately, have become One. It makes it seem as if love's ultimate effect is to reduce by half the number of wonderful people in the world, and I'm pretty sure that we can't spare them. I prefer to think of it as a pooling of resources; a collaboration that will allow each of you to better reach for destinies beyond what we have come to know."
I think that pretty well encapsulates my name-changing feelings. That said, we definitely want kids, and I would want our whole family to have the same name. Although I would have no problem explaining to them that just like I had my father's last name, they had their dad's last name.
For all the reasons that I would want to keep my name, I wouldn't want Jerad to ever change to a "Brown." That'd be ridiculous. Hyphenating? Maybe. It just seems like such a hassle. Keeping my maiden name as a middle name and taking his last name? That's another maybe.
- There are 61,157 people in the U.S. with the last name Hutchinson.
- Statistically the 572nd most popular last name.
- There are 122 people in the U.S. named Stephanie Hutchinson.
Well, no matter what happens, at least most people can say and spell Hutchinson. Part of my job is answering phones and taking messages and lemme tell you, there are some weird-ass last names out there.
Since this isn't anything immediately pressing, I still have some time to mull it over.
What did/would you do? Did you regret it?