Monday, November 3, 2008

Just say no....

o·ver·com·mit (vr-k-mt)
v. o·ver·com·mit·ted, o·ver·com·mit·ting, o·ver·com·mits
1. To bind or obligate (oneself, for example) beyond the capacity for realization.
2. To allocate or apportion (money, goods, or resources) in amounts incapable of replacement.


A few months ago when I made the decision to not go to school this fall even though it would put me 2 classes away from my BA, I told myself all sorts of little lies.

"You'll have so much more free time."
"You can go to bed early and sleep in on the weekends."
"You'll be able to cook dinner
"You can enjoy the Holidays."

These things could be true... except we have jam packed our schedules with so many "extra curricular activities," I feel like I can't breathe lately. Seriously, a different obligation 4 out of 5 week nights, and then on the weekends. If it sounds fun, we just can't say no. Even if it doesn't sound fun, but people we like will be there, count us in! Erm, that hasn't been working out so well.

Yesterday I told Jerad I wished I were on my death bed so at least I could have an excuse to lay in bed. I think he thought I was joking?

This is the busy season for Jerad. So besides working all manners of overtime at work, he is also having to spend the weekends submitting proposals and planning out all of this stuff for side jobs he has coming up. All of these side jobs he has been putting off all of a sudden are ready to go at the same time. I think he is working 3 out of the next 4 weekends... I've started driving him to work just so we can see each other more (and he likes my warm toasty car). Driving him also means that we have to leave the house at 6:30AM now. By the time I pick him up, its after 6 assuming that he gets off on time.

So, in an effort to keep my/his/our sanity, we are going to practice saying "no." Hmmm, we'll see how this works:) I just want to be able to look forward to going out instead of it being one more thing that we "have to do" each day.

We are quitting the Dave Ramsey class we were taking on Wednesday nights. Its too hard with his work schedule. We have all of the materials, so we can work on it at home, then take it next time around when the days are longer and everything else isn't so crazy. We just didn't have time to actually read the materials we were supposed to, so we weren't getting much out of the class.
Thank goodness, softball is also over, so that frees up Thursday. Hopefully this month we will be able to get back to our dance classes, I think there are only 2 meetings due to Election Day and Thanksgiving.

I have been managing to cook dinner every night and we have been trying out some fun new recipes. The Dream Dinners thing has also been helping for when I don't have time to cook, and at least we aren't eating out or eating unhealthy. Speaking of healthy eating habits, we are making the switch to drinking only unpasteurized, raw milk. More to come on that later.

So, I'm hoping that just learning to be able to say "no" every now and then will make me way less stressed, and maybe get rid of these seemingly permanent black circles under my eyes. One can only hope:) Besides, I need to save up some energy for the twenty-something pies I inevitably end up making for anyone that requests them during the next 2 months. Mmmmm, pie....



1. To chill and relax simultaneously.
2. To loosen or reduce the level of stress by employing a more relaxed and groovy outlook.

1 comment:

Jules said...

So, how do we get on your list of people you will hang out with?

jk, glad you're taking a breather.